I've moved this autism blog!
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http://www.walkingwithalec.com.
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In May of 2004 we received the "label" of Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified" (PDD-NOS) for our then 2 year-old son Alec. Daily with God's help, and the help of friends we are meeting along the way, we are searching for the steps to take to help Alec on this journey for recovery. This is a record of that journey.
Please find the latest posts about our walk with our son, Alec, at:
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I’ve often referred to our struggle to cope with Alec’s autism as a struggle against a giant. To us, and possibly to Alec, autism has been a great giant that we have been forced to battle. When I say that, I am talking about the struggle for language skills, social skills, the struggle to obtain proper specialized education, financial funding, meeting dietary restrictions and needs, and finding therapists: the list can go on and on.
“But now the LORD says, ‘Do not weep any longer, for I will reward you. Your children will come back to you from the distant land of the enemy. There is hope for your future," says the LORD. ‘Your children will come again to their own land.’”
Jeremiah 16 & 17
Matt and I don’t have unlimited financial resources to help Alec. We’ve done the best we can. We have given him as much ABA as we could afford. We have been chelating him, and we have seen great results. Not able to afford a specialized full time school that uses ABA, Alec attends both three days of his private ABA school and two days of public school. God has helped us in many ways, but I know that there are those who do far more in terms of providing specialized care and treatments. But I believe that the single greatest therapy for our kids is to love and accept them, because they are God’s children, uniquely made, entirely beautiful.
When Alec was first diagnosed, I went to two elder ladies in our church and prayed with them for Alec. During that prayer, they gave me a promise then, that Alec would be healed, but that it would take a long time.
You can say what you will, but I have held onto that promise. I can’t justify it to you. I only know that I took that promise to heart, and covered Alec in prayers every night, asking that he would be “all that God intended him to be”. Maybe that is healing. Or maybe it’s more. Like I said, I can’t justify it to anyone else.
Now here we are. Alec will be turning five in July. A dream of ours is about to happen, and Alec will be attending regular kindergarten. His public school teacher tells us that he is keeping up with the kids in all academic areas. (Remember, he is only in preschool!) We have watched daily miracles in his life this year. He goes outside and plays with the children on the block, playing tag and riding his bike everywhere. He races his big sister Elise.
His language began to explode around January. Suddenly, he began speaking complex sentences. One day not too long ago, I asked him what he did at school that day and he listed five activities. At the beginning of the school year, he would only repeat my question to me.
Alec can tell me how he feels now, and even why. He asks questions “Where are we going?” and “What are you doing, Mama?” and many more. His language still has a slight delay, but he is able to hold his own now.
Socially, he’s growing by leaps and bounds. He’s asking children he meets “What is your name?” and he wants to know, if they are crying, why they are upset. He is participating in everything at school. Speaking out to people while shopping.
He still self-limits regarding his diet. That giant is still causing trouble. But, he is healthy and very strong.
Matt and I often ask ourselves what it has been that has worked. I’ve been a great believer of treating autism in terms of diet and even, yes, looking at mercury issues. We have and are treating Alec. We believe in ABA in every way. But I believe that the greatest thing we have is knowing that God is there for us, and that He loves Alec and has promised to help us. We have never been alone. I believe that if all we could afford to give Alec was love, then God would see to it that love was all Alec needed to be all that He intended Alec to be.
So, I have to thank Him. I’ve hesitated writing these things because I know there are hearts breaking out there, trying to understand autism and decide the best way to treat our kids. Do not lose hope. Seek those promises out and believe them. Do the best you can to get information and make the best choices for your child.
And don’t let anyone tell you that the giant will win. There is joy in every day if we look for it. Even on the hardest days in these past few years, I have found new wisdom in understanding Alec.
I thank God for this boy, for all that I have learned through him. For the miracles he shows me daily. For the smiles that warm my heart, because I know they came with a price.
The greatest blessings are behind the biggest giants in our lives. I believe that, with God’s help, those giants will fall. Believe it, too, because our kids are so very worth it. Faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
"You murmured and complained in your tents and said, `The LORD must hate us, bringing us here from Egypt to be slaughtered by these Amorites. How can we go on? Our scouts have demoralized us with their report. They say that the people of the land are taller and more powerful than we are, and that the walls of their towns rise high into the sky! They have even seen giants there--the descendants of Anak!'
"But I said to you `Don't be afraid! The LORD your God is going before you. He will fight for you, just as you saw him do in Egypt. And you saw how the LORD your God cared for you again and again here in the wilderness, just as a father cares for his child. Now he has brought you to this place.'Deuteronomy 1: 26-31
Life has been getting harder lately. It’s not really Alec, but more of the overwhelming tasks and responsibilities that Matt and I are dealing with right now.